Do You Feel Alone In Your Marriage?

It has been said that all growth takes place in relationships and I would agree that relationships are the ripest place for growth. When we are in relationship with another there is a multitude of experiences that make us feel uncomfortable, or ask ourselves deep insightful questions.

You may be feeling alone in your marriage, which is a very strange and painful feeling for anyone going through it. Yet, my experience through the years with countless people is that it is real and happening all across the world. Why is this? How can a person feel alone when in a couple? I have found there are a couple of reasons that are unfortunately all too common.

• Addiction. Addiction is the compulsive use of any substance, person, feeling, or behavior with a relative disregard of the potentially negative social, psychological, and physical consequences. Addiction will disconnect you from you first, and then disconnect you from your loved ones.

• Deep Wounds From Childhood that are left unhealed. Many people were abused in one way or another as a child. When this has happened, people find ways to live in this cruel/bad situation to survive, which helped them as children, but now as adults hinders their ability to deeply connect in intimate relationships.

• Bad Communication Skills. Good communication skills are a vital part of good relationships.

• Using Time as an excuse. Here in 2009, we are all very busy. Many of us use “not enough time” as an excuse for not fostering a better relationship.

Now time for some down to earth, reasonable and logical suggestions!

• Stop it, STOP it, STOP IT!! Stop using your addictions that keep you isolated. Stop holding on to the past you must heal and let go of the pain. Stop communicating poorly and not listening and Stop using time as an excuse!

~ Ok, now that I have your attention ~

• If you or your loved one is aware of having any type of addiction, get help! There are plenty of resources out there…just google addiction or recovery from addiction and you can find what you are looking for!

• Same goes for recovering from an abusive childhood, seek help! There are many gifted healers out there…find one!

I myself have been through many of these challenges and have come out the other side. I am happier than I have ever been and my marriage of 19 years is healthier than it has ever been! So believe me when I say…

~ You can move out of your limiting beliefs about relationships and

Move into limitless JOY within them ~

To learn more about connecting deeply with your spouse or partner, schedule your complimentary session today! call 843-343-8956 or e-mail tracy@transformingfamily.com

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