By: Tracy Liebmann
How do we go about manifesting our family’s
dreams? The process will look different for every family since we
are all autonomous beings, so the ideas I talk about in this article
are not directives, I just enjoy sharing what goes on inside my
head. I have found that it can be challenging to use words to
describe a spiritual concept, a concept that evolves through spirit,
yet I continue to try.
My vision for my family started out inside of me, my spirit was my
guiding light. My spirit told me that I wanted a loving, harmonious,
consensual home; I wanted everyone to hold their own power. As a
child I felt very powerless and am still working on owning my power.
I didn’t want to do that to my family. It has been a journey and
along the way I have learned a few things I would like to share. The
most important thing I learned was not to focus on what I don’t
want, but to focus on what I did want. For me, I started out knowing
what I didn’t want and for a while did make the mistake of focusing
on that and it didn’t feel very good. I recognized that this wasn’t
working, I looked for a new way and the universe delivered the
knowledge I needed to move forward. I read and was told to tap into
how it would feel to have this family I envisioned. I am a feeling
being, so that really helped me. I remember lying in my bath tub
closing my eyes and actually feeling how wonderful it would be and
from that point forward it came fairly natural to focus on that good
intention, instead of my old tapes. Sounds easy enough…and for some
it really is easy, for others including myself there was still more
to do.
The Zen philosophy really resonates with me, it is based in
practicality, the idea that the spiritual is in the mundane. So in
my everyday life I had to practice seeing the spiritual goodness in
everything. That is not to say bad thing don’t happen or that some
days people don’t just feel sad, angry or whatever. For me
acceptance is the key to all my feelings and working through them.
We often hear the statement “choose joy” and that can be a bit
challenging when something awful is going on; an illness, tragedy,
disagreement with someone or even something dreaded by a lot of
people as simple as the dentist <g>. How do we choose joy then you
might ask. Again, acceptance of what going on is the starting point
for me. Reminding myself that all of life is available to us for a
reason, we might not understand the reason, but I try to accept
everything as just being “OK”. When I can accept what’s going on I
am choosing joy, even if it doesn’t fell great. It’s accepting the
ying and the yang of life. It is embracing what is…reality.
Just this morning I received a daily email from the Abraham-Hicks
website that suggested looking at life as a buffet. I will
paraphrase; to choose your thoughts, just like you choose your food
at the buffet. You put what you like onto your plate and you can
choose what you want in your life. Yet, what about the challenging
stuff life brings us, like I mentioned above…that can be a sticking
point for many of us. If I manifested the good stuff, then do I
manifest the bad stuff too? This kind of thinking can bring on new
age guilt, which in my opinion is undesirable. I bring this up to
clarify my point about acceptance. When we accept life, focus on
what we want, be true to ourselves, follow our hearts and believe we
can have everything we desire for ourselves and our families we will
manifest our vision! May the force be with you ;-)
Tracy Liebmann is a certified life coach and unschooling mom. If you
are a person who desires more joy and ease within your family, she
will empower you to realize your vision for the kind of family you
desire. She offers one FREE ½ hour session so that you can
experience what coaching can do for you and your family. Go to her
website www.transformingfamily.com to learn more about her practice.